I'm Lookin' For A List-Fitter...

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Breaking News- Stop the presses! Hold the phones! Console your trembling puppies! I want a man.

BUT not just any man. 

I've always been told that I have very high standards when it comes to what I want in a future husband. Maybe you have too; and even if no one has specifically said it, you probably can relate. That's a good thing. The man that one day you will promise to "love, honor, and cherish till death do you part" is not someone to consider lightly- not something to just settle on. However, it's one thing to say you have high standards, and another thing entirely to actually mean it. 

Ladies, it's time we get specific!

I'm going to share with you a small piece of my own personal journal to help illustrate what I mean, this will literally be a direct quote from my own prayer and searching. 

So, here goes... something? 

• I want a man who loves me fully, but always loves our Lord more.
• I want a man who doesn't just read his Bible, but also hides it in his heart.
• I want a man who not only stores up Scripture, but also is able to wield it in the face of temptation and attack.
• I want a man who not only will worship with hands raised during a powerful song, but also with have a spirit of worship in the quiet day-to-day life.
• I want a man who will sing "Blessed Be You Name" during the times "that are plentiful", but also will honestly cry "I will praise You in this storm" during the hard ones.
• I want a man who isn't just seen praying out loud in public, but also is on his knees in unrecognized quiet.
• I want a man who not only prays for me, but also prays over me.
• I want a man who not only opens my mind to his ideas and thoughts, but also opens his to mine.
• I want a man who will be tender and loving to our children, but also will refuse to "spare the rod."
• I want a man who is tough, level-headed, and a protector, but also is able to be sensitive to my fears and emotions.
• I want a man who doesn't just open doors for me, but also guides me away as they close.
• I want a man who loves and respects his mother, but also is able to "leave and cleave" to me alone.
• I want a man who not only allows me to hold his hand, but also wants to hold mine.

Now this, by no means, is a completed list. It's merely the first 2 pages. I encourage you, fellow young women, to create a list of your own. You can tell from my list that it has a good mix of both spiritual attributes and physical qualities; and that's how it should be, I believe. Go for it. Take your time. PRAY OVER IT. PRAY AS YOU WRITE IT. 

The same goes for you, young men. Make a list for what you would want in a wife. Not only will it challenge you now, it will also be a reference point for the future when you're seeking out that potential woman.

One More Thing:

Whether you're a lady or a gent, I urge you to make your list based on God's Word. Anything without God will fail. Search Scripture for what qualities a godly husband or wife should possess and write those down. Remember, as you get specific with your standards for your future spouse, God is already preparing a person who not only meets those, but who is also looking for someone who meets theirs. Align yourself with God and He'll make you someone's list-fitter. :) 

"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

[Matthew 6:33 NIV]

What would you add to my list? Guys, what are some things that you'd put on yours?p